Sunday, April 10, 2016

Why we meet different social fates

All people have social eye and that is why they treat different people differently and also the same person in different situations differently. They kind of tend to discuss so with the person's strategy of life: they either tune to the same type of areas of life in their repertuaire, or they comment on the strong (admiration, polite ways) or weak (attacks, pity) sides of the other person's strategy of life or discuss with such strategy by giving advices by sharing their experience of life, wisdom of life and things they have read.
People also themselves cause different results by their actions: one assuming a too big role creates disasters to which others react negatively, and one assuming a too little role leaves things not taken care of and the less skilled in a ruling position.
Such features are dependent on the person oneself and it makes no sense to reach for the qualities of others, because such would demand a different level of skill which presently is not (yet?) possible. By understanding what one's own social life's dynamics are like, one can reach for better courses for oneself, but often those are not suited as advices for others. Among people of the same profession or the like it is often possible share advices, likewise to help the ones with much less wisdom of life and the much more stupid.

Saturday, May 30, 2015

War against whom

The military serivce allows a country an army when needed and so it helps the country to defend itself. Without an army the country would propably not be convincing and would so end up in a military confrontation much more often and be a subject of wrongdoings. But once a country has an army, it typically can count on other tactics too. Even if there is a shift in who is in power, there is not necessarily need for war if the new power is ok for the people. Army is for defence against poor living conditions, against invaders whose rule would bring too poor life for the people. Those new rulers who change things toward better, need not be warred against but merely defend independency and rights of the people by more peaceful means.

Wednesday, May 20, 2015

The need for war like behaviour

If one gets squeezed, one needs the ability to defend one's personal space, one's individuality. Individuality does not mean the right to boss others around. Instead it means the right to choose about one's own life as far as one does not unfairly disturb others.
Kids are bossed around by their parents and other kids plus school teachers and other adults. So they feel dearly the need to defend. So they copy from soldiers, which is just healthy as far as those soldiers have a good healthy kind of life and a good healthy kind of strategy in the society and in the world.
As adults some people have not yet found the right balance between giving in and adapting to situtions and to the needs of different arrangements and the need for personal freedom. Typically that is a result of maliciousness which makes some of their actions and intentions unacceptable and so if they stick to those, they are left with less room for themselves, so their everyday life does not go so well. If they would invest in morally ok ways to express themselves, they would not bother others so much. For example if one sits at home and eats, one is no nuisance to others. Then with stomach full can one be in a quite good mood and get along with others. Like that if one oneself takes care of one's personal needs and doies not tie them to some social tangle, it is quite easy for one to get along with othefrs and the society and find the right border between personal space and the affairs in which others need to be taken into account.
With healthy mind and spirit one is capable of defending oneself and the rights of people in a society, but generally gets along with others without needing to fight, much less to adapt to arrangements (often one's own arrangements and views)at the expence of one's personal needs or common sense to the extend that one feels malicious.

Saturday, March 7, 2015

What is according to justice in social situations

Needs matter. If someone dearly needs something and another one not, it is likely that the one who very much needs it ought to get it, for example for a cheap price if it is something that the other one owns. But of course with lies and acting it is a different things: they do not give any extra priviledges to the one who acts or lies.

Justice does not mean treating all the same way. Instead it means something like giving wage like positive feedback for good deeds and nice responsible behaviour and giving punishment like negative feedback for unmoral attacks and other unmoral ways.
So in a social situation, if the other one is very unmoral in one's behaviour, it is according to justice to attack such person and to not to give him or her as much rights as others who are more moral in that occasion.
Once again lies and acting are not any grounds for giving priviledges or punishing wrong person.

Monday, August 1, 2011

How to cure underachievement away

Many who feel stupid or underachieving, spend all their time pretending to make sense, to be well achieving, to look rational and intelligent. Stop that! Such acting takes all your attention, so it prevents you from achievements. Instead do your best in ordinary everyday ways. That way you will really have some skills to show and across time you will develop greatly by just doing the things that you surely can and by attempting your very best at learning new things of value.

Why social strategy/friendlyness matters

If you hit someone in th ehead by a stool, they are likely to think that their life depends on being enemies with you. So they tend to behave in a cumbersome uncooperative way from then on. But if you on the other hand ofeer a piece of cake and go on your own way without trying to poison anyone by that cake, they are likely to be casually friendly.

The Origin of Good and Evil

Joe had been sitting too much indoors. His head felt dizzy. He put the mug in his hand to the table and started toward the door. Someone had left an office chair in the middle of the road there. He tried to clumsily avoid it but did not fully succeed. He hit his thigh nastily on the edge of the chair. “What the hell!” He send angrily the office chair flying along the floor. It collided with someone coming in. “You bastard! Don’t do that again.” Too much time indoors without exercise makes the head dizzy, movements clumsy and leaves the person feeling forceless and weak, becomes so easy to agitate in a frustrated fury. Also errors become many and successes few and not noteworthy. Consequently human relationships become a mess.
Jack had been outdoors in the garden doing varied physical work together with other employees. His eyes were sharp and reactions quick. With ease he moved around the office chair which was still lying in the middle of the doorway, and tried to brighten the social atmosphere. “Hi guys, it a fine weather, why don’t you try drinking your coffee outside? My pals there also could have use for a helping hand.” Always, just always!, remember to look at a tree while you think!